KissToday’s Word: ‘KISS’ as in… kiss like you really mean it!

There’s a story about a Japanese couple who were married shortly after they moved to the United States. In spite of their limited familiarity with Western traditions, everything went well until the pastor invited them to kiss as he introduced them to the gathering. Nothing happened. The pastor, somewhat taken off guard and thinking they hadn’t heard him, looked at the bride and simply said, “How about a little kiss?” Not wanting to offend him, the young bride tentatively leaned forward and kissed the pastor!

Les and Leslie Parrott, co-directors of the Center for Relationship Development at Seattle Pacific University remind us that she is not the first bride to be confused by kissing.

“A kiss can mean different things at different times. A kiss can mean good morning, see you later, I’ve missed you, I’m sorry, I love you, I’m in the mood—all of that and more. But perhaps the sweetest of all kisses is the good night kiss that says I’m going to be missing you even while I sleep!”

Remember when you were dating and how difficult it was to say good night? You’d say goodnight countless times with just as many kisses. Musicians, poets, philosophers, writers, lovers, bloggers have all done their best to embrace the mystery and magic of a kiss.

Maybe Proverbs 24:26 sums it up best: “An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips.”

King Solomon, in all his wisdom, compares a kiss to an honest answer. So think of it this way: when you’re kissing your lover on the lips, especially as a way to say good night, you’re communicating some very deep and honest feelings. A kiss goodnight is a lover’s short hand to the deeper questions we rarely articulate but deeply feel: Do you still love me, in spite of all the mistakes I make? Do you still want to be with me when I burn the toast, leave my clothes on the floor, make a mess of things? A kiss on the lips is a way of saying “Yes!” to all of these unspoken questions.

So go ahead and kiss like you really mean it!


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