Today’s Word: ‘Speak’ as in… speak your mind, say what you need to say.
You know how it is when someone speaks a word, a thought, a phrase and it resonates so deeply within you that you just can’t shake it? It just seems to stick.
A thought that’s been sticking with me for years comes from Father William DuBay, a catholic priest who’s been speaking his mind for decades. Way back in the 1960’s, DuBay got himself into some hot water for doing just that: speaking his mind on behalf of the oppressed and marginalized. Imagine that! Here’s what DuBay said about speaking one’s mind:
“The most human thing we have to do in life is to learn to speak our honest convictions and feelings and live with the consequences. This is the first requirement of love, and it makes us vulnerable to other people who may ridicule us. But our vulnerability is the only thing we can give to other people.”
The 21st century version of DuBay’s insight could be found in John Mayer’s song, “Say What you Need to Say” made popular in the 2007 movie “The Bucket List.” Posting “Today’s Word” on Social Media takes me back to DuBay. Every time I sit down to write a post I have to make myself push through the temptation to skip it, to actually not write it, to say nothing of posting it! I struggle with questions like these:
“Do I really have an honest conviction about this?” “Are my feelings really worthy of some public space?” “Am I willing to risk transparency and vulnerability by sharing thoughts, convictions, challenges, doubts, wonderings in the public forum?”
I suppose that’s what DuBay was getting at when he called all of this “the first requirement of love.”
If what I share here is ultimately rooted in love, honesty, conviction and vulnerability, then hopefully something will stick. And if something sticks, maybe that might help what’s really stuck get un-stuck.
So go ahead, speak your mind, say what you need to say.