Today’s Word: ‘transition’ as in… what we do internally with the external changes in life.
Transition is the emotional, psychological, internal response, the inner reorientation and self-redefinition that we go through in order to incorporate changes into our lives. Without transition, change is just a rearrangement of the furniture. In change we ask, “What just happened?” Transition helps us ask, “What will happen in response to change?”
While transition is a normal, natural and necessary human process, some people deny and avoid it. When we don’t have a safe, productive ways to express and process our feelings, we’ll internalize them. That’s when our emotions re-appear in denial, anger, fear, frustration, cynicism, skepticism. The result is often inward and outward resistance which slows down or stops the needed change in our lives.
So how do we know if we’re at a transition point? There are several hints: what used to be easy is now hard; our performance plateaus, neither getting better or worse; after losing our job we’re forced to rethink who we are and what we have to offer; we’re unhappy in our current life and work situation; we’re tired of doing the same thing over and over; there’s low motivation to create good things; our relationships aren’t working; we’re thrust into a life role for which we feel unprepared; we have a general uncertainty about life and work purpose; we’re angry all the time at the people who put us in this position; we don’t want to talk or think about the future; we just want things to stay the same; we’re afraid of what the future will bring – it can only be bad; we feel completely helpless, like we’ve lost all control over lives.
Whew! Take a couple of big, deep breaths. I’ll wait.
So where are you with all of this today? It probably feels unsettling. That’s okay. I’ll walk you through this. These are necessary moments. You can’t go around this; you’ve got to go through this.
Two things are coming: the Wilderness and then the New Beginning!
Stay tuned for some thriving!